Most babies love to be held, and if you are one of the unfortunate parents that read a book about how you can never give to much love to a baby, you probably haven't showered in 2 days and have a laundry pile as large as the couch. What to do? Learn to put your baby down in a way that is easy for you and the baby.
Parenting 101. Ok 1st thing I love to tell new parents. If you are worried about being a good parent that’s the first step to being a good one. Constantly question yourself. That will help keep you balanced. Am I too strict? Did my kid just walk all over me? Now I am by no means the perfect parent but through my many, many mistakes I have learned a lot, and hope that you can learn from my mistakes, saving you a few of your own.
Today I would love to chat with you about baby. There are so many books about not being able to over cuddle or over love your baby, yes you can't over love a baby but you can train them that you are their personal slave and servant to their every whim. Now don't get me wrong there is the other side of this, the moms that leave there kids in their car seats so often that their children are developmentally behind with a serious lack of balance, tummy time and human interaction. Balance is the trick. Your baby should be held, played with, and comforted however they should have time to entertain themselves as well. I made the mistake of over attending to my child and have been slowly working on teaching him to play on his own. My son was born with a broken collar bone and was in pain when he was laid down and we both just got used to it.
But if you have this type of child there is hope. What I did was set him on the floor in front of me and interacted with him as soon as he was older and could sit up. I would interact with a toy with him get him really interested in the toy then slowly back away over the next 2 months, I scooted back a step or two then eventually went to the couch, now I can even leave the room without him, which comes much later by the way. But by the time he was 12 months I would be on the couch and he was playing with toys on the floor. I was cooking in the kitchen and he was in the high chair with toys and munchies your other saving grace. Food is an awesome distraction, if there is nothing else try Mickey Mouse Clubhouse or some other very youthful show. But please use TV as a last resort; don't turn your kids into fat lazy couch potatoes.
Now that takes care of the baby side of this, the next part is you. You are part of this equation as well. And you know in your heart of hearts some part of you loves holding that baby and doesn't want to let that baby down. I know you love the bond that you have with your child and are scared of losing it. But either way someday that baby will be set down eventually your child will grow up enough that he or she needs more than just Mom or Dad. The baby will want to crawl around and play at a certain point, if you try and stop this baby will grow away from you, versus you playing with a growing baby. Otherwise the baby will try to get away from your smothering. So try and give yourself a much needed break and help your baby grow up a bit and get some much needed independence.
Every phase of growing up has its own joys and challenges, just as you are thankful one phase ends another challenge presents itself. You can't stop the growing up process but you can help you child ease into each phase with love, guidance and appreciation for where they are at.
Parenting 101. Ok 1st thing I love to tell new parents. If you are worried about being a good parent that’s the first step to being a good one. Constantly question yourself. That will help keep you balanced. Am I too strict? Did my kid just walk all over me? Now I am by no means the perfect parent but through my many, many mistakes I have learned a lot, and hope that you can learn from my mistakes, saving you a few of your own.
Today I would love to chat with you about baby. There are so many books about not being able to over cuddle or over love your baby, yes you can't over love a baby but you can train them that you are their personal slave and servant to their every whim. Now don't get me wrong there is the other side of this, the moms that leave there kids in their car seats so often that their children are developmentally behind with a serious lack of balance, tummy time and human interaction. Balance is the trick. Your baby should be held, played with, and comforted however they should have time to entertain themselves as well. I made the mistake of over attending to my child and have been slowly working on teaching him to play on his own. My son was born with a broken collar bone and was in pain when he was laid down and we both just got used to it.
But if you have this type of child there is hope. What I did was set him on the floor in front of me and interacted with him as soon as he was older and could sit up. I would interact with a toy with him get him really interested in the toy then slowly back away over the next 2 months, I scooted back a step or two then eventually went to the couch, now I can even leave the room without him, which comes much later by the way. But by the time he was 12 months I would be on the couch and he was playing with toys on the floor. I was cooking in the kitchen and he was in the high chair with toys and munchies your other saving grace. Food is an awesome distraction, if there is nothing else try Mickey Mouse Clubhouse or some other very youthful show. But please use TV as a last resort; don't turn your kids into fat lazy couch potatoes.
Now that takes care of the baby side of this, the next part is you. You are part of this equation as well. And you know in your heart of hearts some part of you loves holding that baby and doesn't want to let that baby down. I know you love the bond that you have with your child and are scared of losing it. But either way someday that baby will be set down eventually your child will grow up enough that he or she needs more than just Mom or Dad. The baby will want to crawl around and play at a certain point, if you try and stop this baby will grow away from you, versus you playing with a growing baby. Otherwise the baby will try to get away from your smothering. So try and give yourself a much needed break and help your baby grow up a bit and get some much needed independence.
Every phase of growing up has its own joys and challenges, just as you are thankful one phase ends another challenge presents itself. You can't stop the growing up process but you can help you child ease into each phase with love, guidance and appreciation for where they are at.
